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A Guide to the Ceremony

COMMITMENT

The couple walk through the participants and stand under the chuppah. The person leading the ceremony raises a cup of wine and says:

BARUCH ATA ADONAI ELOHEINU MELECH HA-OLAM, BOREI PRI HA-GAFEN.

YOU ARE BLESSED, HASHEM OUR GOD, SOVEREIGN OF THE UNIVERSE,
WHO CREATES THE FRUIT OF THE VINE.

He and the couple all drink from the cup, leaving half of it in the cup.

The person leading the ceremony continues with the following:

MI SHE-NATAN LEV B'ADAM, MI SHE-BARA AHAVAH,
HU YEVARECH ET SH'TEI HA-NASHIM, V'YA'ASEH ME-HEN LEV ECHAD.
V'YITEIN CHAYEIHEN SHALOM V'SHALVAH, VIYEKAYEIM LAHEN KOL CHALOM,
U-V'AHAVATO YIMALEI YEMEIHEN BIVRACHAH V'CHOL TOV V'SHALOM.

MAY THE ONE WHO GAVE PEOPLE HEARTS, THE ONE WHO CREATED LOVE,
MAY
HE BLESS THESE TWO WOMEN, AND MAKE THEIR HEARTS AS ONE.
AND MAY HE GRANT THEIR LIVES PEACE AND SERENITY,
AND MAY
HE FULFILL ALL THEIR DREAMS,
AND IN
HIS LOVE, MAY HE FILL THEIR DAYS
WITH BLESSING AND ALL GOODNESS AND PEACE.

The couple turn to each other, and one at a time, say:

V'EIRASTICH LI L'OLAM. V'EIRASTICH LI B'TZEDEK U-V'MISHPAT U-V'CHESED U-V'RACHAMIM. V'EIRASTICH LI B'EMUNAH, V'YADA'AT ET HASHEM.

HAREI ANI MEKUSHERET LACH, B'KISHREI AHAVAH, B'CHAVOD U-V'EMUNAH.

AND I WILL BETROTHE YOU TO ME FOREVER.
AND I WILL BETROTHE YOU TO ME WITH RIGHTEOUSNESS AND JUSTICE AND KINDNESS AND COMPASSION.
AND I WILL BETROTHE YOU TO ME WITH FAITH, AND YOU WILL KNOW HASHEM.

BEHOLD I AM BOUND TO YOU, WITH TIES OF LOVE, IN HONOR AND IN FAITH.

As each woman finishes, she puts the ring on her partner's finger.

The person leading the ceremony calls friends and family up to the chuppah to read first the Brit Ahavah (Covenant of Love), which testifies to the couple's mutual love and commitment, and then the Communal Blessings, welcoming them, as a couple, into the community.

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